Random mails

For the last one year I have been getting random emails sent to my email address. They have been clearly sent to my mailing address by mistake. The kind of emails I received ranged from general 'hi' 'how r u' to family photos, matrimonial ads to details of new flat purchased. I seriously don't know how and when my name became so common that I seem to be getting one such erroneously sent email every month.

I recently have been getting photos and profiles of pretty young Punjabi girls waiting to get married! This was so interesting (provoking) that I thought I must let it out.

Guess what, I am supposed to be the 'eligible' bachelor! The emails are from the girl's side, either by herself (modern) or by her parents or siblings (traditional).  I don't know how my name has got included in this email mix up. But it is hilarious to see the matrimonial ads which seem to resemble resumes for a managerial post.

With the popularity of the various matrimonial websites, it seems like arranged marriage and the related businesses are flourishing.. Arranged marriages in India are not so simple to arrange. Its not just a question of putting up yourself as available and finding the most eligible partner. You have to search and find your way through the whole maze of your caste, community, religion, sub sect etc etc.  In the south, I am sure there are various specialised websites like 'Tamil brahmin matrimonials', 'Iyengar and Iyer' , 'Thengalai', 'Vadakalai' , 'Palakkad Brahmin' websites which help people improve their search criteria.

I have got about 5 emails so far, containing descriptions of Punjabi girls wtith their photos attached. I have just been deleting the emails thinking they will just get auto corrected or deleted and will stop appearing in my Inbox. But it is not happening. So I had to politely send an email stating that it was being sent to the wrong email address. Just take a look at the content of some the emails . I have removed the name and other details for the girls' sake.

"Stays in Paschim vihar. Persuing MBA . 1991 born. 5'4" height. Weatish complexion. Contact: 9213...... ( mother)"


Here is another one:

"Date of Birth : 20th Dec'85
Place Of Birth : Delhi Birth Time : 8.30 A.M..
Height : 5 '5' Residence: South Delhi
Mother :Housewife. Father : Expired.
Siblings : 1 Sister Married   2 Elder Brother Unmarried (Own bussiness in ..... )
Qualification & Job : Graduate  from Kamala Nehru College Delhi University ,MBA from Symboises pune And Having Over 3.5
years of Work Experience, Working With A Private Bank in South Delhi
 As Senior Manager - Operation (Branch Banking). Package 4 Lacs"

And another

Let us introduce ourselves first. We are punjabi Khatri, well educated
and cultured family.  This proposal is for our elder daughter. Her
D.O.Birth is 6.1.1987, height is 5,5" , weight 75
extremely  beautiful & smart, confident,  fair & charming. She is a
convent educated girl
and has done B.A. (Hon's) English, MBA in Marketing & HR and working in a Tata
 sky in Managerial post. Presently placed at Chandigarh but ready to relocate.
Professionally very promising career prospects ahead.   I am working
as senior executive with a PSU.  We have our own 3 bedroom apartment
in Gurgaon, presently staying in .... Delhi.
 

There were three more mails that I deleted but which contained more elaborate descriptions of the girl. Almost all the girls had very good educational qualifications, especially an 'MBA". So these days it seems like having an MBA is as good as having a "convent education". Another important qualification is the "working in an MNC" . I wonder what the 'eligible bachelor' does then?

I decided to take a look at some of the matrimonial ads that come with the Sunday newspapers. What I found after glancing through them is that the importance, atleast verbally, to tall, slim, fair, beautiful, homely girls has come down. Most girls are described with respect to their profession or job and educational qualification, which is such a drastic change from the matrimonial ads that were placed, say ten or fifteen years ago.

I just hope these professionally qualified girls are indeed valued more for what they do than how they look. I hope they find nice, sweet, suitable bachelors who appreciate them and their marital status adds another feather to their already beautiful crown.


Meanwhile, I will continue to post interesting emails that I receive, especially from eligible Punjabi girls.


Dated: 21 May 2013

Do people ever stop to verify the sender's name when they send such personal emails? I still receive these emails from people in response to some advertisement supposedly placed by me in the HT Classifieds.