It is said that parents are given the chance to re-live their lives through that of their children. I am reminded of this fact whenever I see other mothers in the school, waiting to pick up their wards.
I see groups of mothers standing atleast 30 minutes before the bell waiting to see their children, talking with their fellow 'mom' friends. I mention the mothers because there are very few fathers who manage to come out at 2.30 or 2.45 pm to pick up their kids from school.
As I too stand waiting for my daughter, I wonder if its the mothers who attend school ( in spirit) or the children. Groups or gangs of mothers stand and discuss every minute detail of the school work, home work, projects and tests. On test days, the scene outside would be quite emotional. Entire tests would be repeated to anxious mothers. Answers would be discussed and argued on. And all this is mostly among parents of children who study in the primary and pre-primary section. I sincerely hope for car pooling in my school just to avoid emotional interaction with other parents.
I am all for this active parenting style that we have these days. Parents need to know about their kids' schoolwork and the associated pressures. But isn't there something about doing too much. Call it 'tiger moms' and 'tiger dads' but it definitely seems to the time of over-active parenting.
At times like this I wish we had some activity from the schools just to help parents de-stress from all this over-parenting. I wish schools prescribed a 'guide to good parenting' through the holy Bhagwat Gita. How about some 'detached attachment' courses for the parents.
I see groups of mothers standing atleast 30 minutes before the bell waiting to see their children, talking with their fellow 'mom' friends. I mention the mothers because there are very few fathers who manage to come out at 2.30 or 2.45 pm to pick up their kids from school.
As I too stand waiting for my daughter, I wonder if its the mothers who attend school ( in spirit) or the children. Groups or gangs of mothers stand and discuss every minute detail of the school work, home work, projects and tests. On test days, the scene outside would be quite emotional. Entire tests would be repeated to anxious mothers. Answers would be discussed and argued on. And all this is mostly among parents of children who study in the primary and pre-primary section. I sincerely hope for car pooling in my school just to avoid emotional interaction with other parents.
I am all for this active parenting style that we have these days. Parents need to know about their kids' schoolwork and the associated pressures. But isn't there something about doing too much. Call it 'tiger moms' and 'tiger dads' but it definitely seems to the time of over-active parenting.
At times like this I wish we had some activity from the schools just to help parents de-stress from all this over-parenting. I wish schools prescribed a 'guide to good parenting' through the holy Bhagwat Gita. How about some 'detached attachment' courses for the parents.
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